Love, laughter and a touch of sarcasm: Married couple at Nottinghamshire dementia home share their story to mark National Couples Day

A married couple at a Nottinghamshire dementia specialist nursing home have reflected on their relationship for National Couples Day (18th August) – proving that love, laughter and some sarcasm is the recipe for a happy marriage.

Tom (76) and Ann (85), from Wren Hall, Selston, reminisced about their time together after first meeting at The Robin Hood pub in Brinsley, just three miles from where they now live. It was Tom who spotted Ann first, and said he couldn't help but be drawn to her charm. He added: "Ann looked beautiful, and I knew she was the one for me.”

Married for what the couple jokingly call a "bloody long time", the White’s shared their secret to a lasting relationship. Ann said: "Trust in each other. Never go to bed on an argument. Life is a lesson." Whilst, Tom cheekily said: "If the man gives in to the woman, it's better. Happy wife, Happy life."

Through the years, they've built a family legacy with children from Ann's previous marriage and some energetic grandchildren. As they reflected on their proudest achievements, Ann admitted: "Mine is marrying him, and his is marrying me." Tom added: "You big-headed sod! But I agree, mine is our life together.”

Now family members of Wren Hall, their connection remains as strong as ever. When asked about the best part about living in the home, they both agreed that it was the fact that they could be together. Keeping on the theme of togetherness, when asked if they had any further couple goals, Tom said: “Ask God if he’ll promise to take us to the next place together.”

Anita Astle MBE, owner and manager of Wren Hall, said: “We are honored to celebrate Roy and Brenda's remarkable Blue Sapphire Wedding Anniversary here at Wren Hall. Their journey of 65 years together is a testament to the power of commitment, love, and respect in a marriage. Their story reminds us all that a strong partnership is built on a foundation of giving and taking. Roy and Brenda's enduring love is an inspiration to us all, and we are privileged to be a part of their journey."

Reminiscence is crucial for individuals living with dementia as it helps to offer a bridge to their past, evoke emotional connections, and stimulate cognitive function. Sharing memories also helps to maintain a sense of identity and contributes to maintaining independence and an enhanced quality of life.

Rated ‘Outstanding’ by CQC, Wren Hall strives to provide a homely and friendly environment to help those living with dementia to achieve optimum independence. Part of this includes referring to those who reside in the home as ‘family members’ rather than residents.

For more information on Wren Hall, please visit https://wrenhall.com/.